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I’ve been thinking about affirmations. Core beliefs. I’m not saying I invented this, but this chain of thoughts/realization came to me this morning. I’m mid morning coffee and jumped up, realizing that I was ready to write a newsletter about this.
I’ve been reading “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murphy, and there’s a chapter talking about affirmations and your true subconscious beliefs. Sometimes affirmations don’t “work” because they feel so deeply untrue in your soul that it only creates a bigger divide or feeling of resistance within.
For me, there has to be some sort of proof. The good news? I’m damn good at sourcing the proof.
You know how sometimes you have a crush on someone, so you’re mentally keeping tabs of all signs they have a crush on you back? I’ll use a word the girlies love— you start to get so delusional that you’ve convinced they like you back, even if they don’t.
It’s like that, but healthy. (In my romantic relationship with my current boyfriend he made his intentions clear and didn’t play games, the whole thing was easy. Stop chasing people who make you have to play detective, we’re too busy doing that in a productive way, ok?)
So anyway, here’s the productive way.
As I’ve grown up and had to deal with big girl things, I’ve observed two things:
1: Things don’t always go as planned (ex: the pandemic deeply changed plans I had created for months, what else? Misreading contracts. Not even reading contracts. Butt dials. Faith transitions, job transitions, break ups, figuring out insurance? The list goes on and on)
But, 2: IT ALWAYS WORK OUT. Everything has always worked out. Even if I’ve embarrassed myself, experienced pain or even lost hundreds, even thousands of dollars… it has worked out for the better. I can 100% look back and feel peace about things, or see what I’ve needed to learn. Every time I’ve lost money, for example, I’ve been able to see how that lesson protects me from losing even more in the future. Conflict then has taught me how to deal with conflict now.
The affirmation that things will always work out has become my personal truth. I’m constantly seeing this in other people’s lives to the point where someone could tell me something horrible their dealing with and it’s taking everything within me to not stand up and shake them with excitement, “THIS IS FOR THE BEST!!!! SHOTS ON ME!!!”
The way I did this was simply with the art of taking note. Mentally doing a little celebration and giving recognition when I noticed everything worked out or turned out to be okay. It’s a muscle now, a personal belief— it’s as true as “coffee makes me feel so good” or “putting lotion on my legs will moisturize them”
I have so many more beliefs in my mind that I need to tackle with this method. Despite this mastery, I still struggle with imposter syndrome, competitiveness, people pleasing, etc.
But here’s the thing, I’m learning to heal these wounds with my own personal detective work.
To summarize: Take note of the good stuff, instead of the bad ok?
Keep a list in your phone.
Keep a list in a journal
Have a group text with friends where you only text when celebrating something no matter how small
Have a celebration in your mind
Think about it as you fall asleep
I think you get it now!
Xx Chloe